When the Fish Dies

Hey fam! Hope your weekend greets you with peace, love and joy whether you are participating in the American tradition of Thanksgiving or not.

Earlier today my daily gratitude ritual led my mind to the positive people who’ve crossed my path but don’t kept in touch. I also reflected on those who hurt to let go but felt better to release. Next, I thought of the strong few enduring life with me during the last decade. Those who stand up for me on the daily, monthly and yearly. Feeling my pain, bleeding my blood, helping heal wounds others inflicted. They stand with me on the frontlines and behind my Veil.

All this thought led me to action. Where did I go? I went online passed all the Black Friday shopping deals and straight to social media. Suddenly I found myself scrolling through my dm log on a social media account I went dark. Soon I sent short lighthearted messages and made video calls to a select few I’m ready to reconnect with. Then I noticed date stamps of old messages from others I let go for one gut wrenching reason or another. No season. No reason. No lifetime. No worries but No turning back. I continued to scroll.

And scroll.

And keep scrolling.

And continuing to scroll.

Damn, I’m still scrolling.

And scrolling.

Why am I scrolling as if I was hunting for something in these dates of YEARS passed?

Then BOOM! There it was and the chat head with his face.

Ew. I mean he’s still fine but, nah. Why am I even seeing this conversation!?? Didn’t he blocked me. Dare I read what I wrote when I blacked out on his ass?

Now, who is he? A fine, financially secure but bitter ex boyfriend in need of closure with something to get off his chest. He reached out a few years ago which was a few years after things ended. With a few long yet pleaseant conversations mixed with consistently instant messages he undoubtedly warmed me up and broke the ice. All leading up to THIS… Why this analog girl in a digital world got blocked for the first time in her life and why I’m grateful.

                     

                   *Social media notification pops up.


Him: That so interesting. To see how spiritual you pretend to be and knowing how dishonest and slick you really are. I will continue to pray for you.


Me: I don’t know who’s definition of “spiritual” you use or what god you serve but I know who I AM. You start your morning trying to condemn me w/ lies and illusions… You need to pray for YOURSELF instead of me.Regardless of your opinion I am fearfully & wonderfully made. That’s why I don’t have to pretend. “Slick” & “dishonest” …you’re so ignorant you don’t even realize you’re describing YOUR own reflection. Again, I have better things to do than what’s in your limited imagination of me. You are so out of line. Now would be a good time to actually open your bible. I pray you Mature in Christ.

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Meet Jeanetta M. Johnson – Breast Cancer Survivor And Our “Goddess Spotlight” As We Close Out Breast Cancer Awareness Month

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October has come to an end, but work towards finding a cure and bringing awareness is ongoing.  We celebrate ALL Women who have won the fight against #BreastCancer and we lift up women like Jeanetta M. Johnson who are Standing Up with a message of hope and inspiration to help other women understand they too can win if diagnosed.

Jeanetta teamed up with Mayvenn Hair and BrightPink.org during #BreastCancerAwarenessMonth 2017 to enlighten women on the symptoms of breast and ovarian cancers, and on the importance of educating themselves so one will know what to look out for.

Remember, BlackWomenStandUp’s – #BWSU #BreastCancerAwareness Hashtag #CheckUpOnIt for the purpose of remaining cancer free and early detection.

Thank you to Jeanetta M. Johnson.

Remember if you would like to Celebrate a Survivor in Your Life on our Survivors’ Wall or Honor a Love one who has passed on from breast cancer on our Memorial Wall for Black Women and Women of Color, feel free to reach out through our Contact Us Page or email Contact@BlackWomenStandUp.com.

Peace and Love.

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BlackWomenStandUp (#BWSU) Stands With #ERA2020 a Campaign With a Mission To Help Combat #CampusRape

BlackWomenStandUp.com is standing with and in support of the work by ERA 2020, a Campaign with a mission to End Rape Altogether, hence the name #ERA2020.  This evening in Harlem at 7PM, a meeting is being held at The Dream Center Harlem located at 205 West 119th Street, New York, NY  10026, to start the discussion and work towards combating campus rape.

If you are in the Tri-State area, and this Cause is important to you, for whatever reason, come out and Stand with us.  Be a part of the discussion and be proactive about working towards a solution.  If you cannot make the meeting tonight and would like to learn more or help with this Campaign, please visit #ERA2020.

Thank you.

T. Braxton – #BWSU

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Black Women Stand Up: Co-Founder, T. Braxton Shares Her #RealBeauty Story

Last week BlackWomenStandUp.com #BWSU featured Fat Girls Dance #FGD Founder, Cathleen Meredith for the blog’s “Goddess Spotlight” Series.  Below, #BWSU Co-Founder, T. Braxton shares her #RealBeauty Story from the #Dove Self-esteem Project – Workshop Room from the #FGD Weekend Finale.

Check out the video below.  Comment with your #RealBeauty Story and please share!

“Don’t Be Afraid to Love Yourself in Totality!” ~ T. Braxton #BWSU

CREATE NY Presents”HE IS – A Day For Men” Saturday, September 30th 2017

Join BlackWomenStandUp.com’s Co-Founder, Tiffany Braxton who is a Member of CREATE New York (Group 2), a program developed by the Theatre Development Fund (tdf) and The Dream Center Harlem.  “HE IS – A Day For Men” is Group 2’s first Community Project.

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“HE IS – A Day For Men” Doors open at 12PM for Registration, Workshops begin at 1PM.  Three Workshop Rooms based on Three E’s – Educate MEn, Enhance and Embrace MEn.  This event is for Adult Men and Young Men 16 years of age and up…

#BWSU “Goddess Spotlight” Feature with Cathleen Meredith – Founder of Fat Girls Dance

Meet Cathleen Meredith, Founder of Fat Girls Dance #FGD, Author and Black Women Stand Up’s #BWSU “Goddess Spotlight” Feature!  It was a pleasure taking part in the #FGD two-day Weekend Finale Event that took place August 26th – 27th 2017.

#FGD is a Movement that has taken off, embraced by women of all shapes and sizes, changing the way women view their bodies.  The ladies of #FGD challenged themselves to learn, perform and post a new dance on YouTube each week for a full year.  Cathleen’s experiment caught the attention of Shonda Rhimes and the Dove brand, which led to an awesome opportunity for Cathleen and the squad…Check out the video below to find out more and see a recap of the #FGD Weekend Finale.

Thank you once again to Cathleen Meredith, the #FGD Squad, Workshop Presenters, Panelists, Vendors, Dance Groups and every woman and guest who did their part to make the Weekend Finale a success! And of course to #Dove and the #RealBeauty Campaign.  Visit Fat Girls Dance to learn more about the #FGD Movement.

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Today #BWSU Celebrates Shatysha Billingsley – Women Who Won Against Breast Cancer

April 27, 2017 marked Shatysha Tysh Billingsley’s one year anniversary of being Cancer Free! Tysh, from Birmingham, Alabama, is another Queen who found the courage and strength to Stand Up to cancer and win. We here at BlackWomenStandUp.com (BWSU) celebrate Tysh and other Black and Brown Women who are breast and or gyn cancer Survivors.  These women serve as an inspiration to many who may be experiencing hearing those life-changing words from a doctor “you have cancer.”  Seeing survivor stories of women like Tysh and many others from #BWSU’s “Survivors Wall” will empower many to fight, and believe that they too can WIN!

Thank you Shatysha for allowing us to share your story and celebrate you. Congratulations on your one year anniversary of being cancer free.  Keep winning Queen, You Rock!

TishBMay the words below from Shatysha on her one year cancer free mark, inspire you as much as they did the BlackWomenStandUp.com Founders.

“Today I celebrate, praise God and jump for joy for being 1YR CANCER FREE!!  I must first THANK cancer. Thank you cancer for teaching me lessons I never knew I needed to learn.  Thank you for making me look at small moments as giant ones. Thank you for teaching me to live and love as big as I possibly can.  Thank you for introducing me to many new amazing people and giving me a greater appreciation for the people I already had.  Thank you for teaching me that its OK to accept help (set my pride to the side) Thank you for making me face the fear of losing myself cause without It couldn’t find my new self.  Thank you for teaching me to let go and disconnect myself from unnecessary stress.  Thank you for helping me find my true potential through havoc.  Thank you for showing me that gratitude should come out of every experience.  Thank you for giving me a new perspective on life, and Thank you for teaching me that I am stronger than you!!!  From the very moment of hearing those words “Ms. Billingsley you have cancer” my breath was shallow, I was scared and instantly felt pain that I had never felt before! Well my pity party didn’t last but a moment, I looked myself in the mirror, took a deep breath and asked God “now what?” (ask and expect an answer) At that moment I began declaring over my life John 11:4 msg “This sickness is not fatal, it will become an occasion to show Gods glory by glorifying Gods Son” so with that in my mind, mouth, heart and soul. Winning was not an option it was the only outcome!!”

Peace and Love,

#BWSU

If you know of a woman of color who you would like to honor/celebrate and would like to see on our “Survivors Wall,” feel free to drop us an email at Contact@BlackWomenStandUp.com with relevant details and picture.

Thank you.

We Are Still Celebrating Women Who Won Against Breast Cancer #LoveYourVaJayJayAndBreast

Meet Mrs. Loretha Blue, a breast cancer survivor, wife, mother and BlackWomenStandUp.com’s 2017 #LoveYourVaJayJayAndBreast Honoree.  Mrs. Blue is a resident of the Bronx, NY., retired, active in her church and totally focused on being the best wife she can be to her husband of 35 years.  We will be featuring the couple in our “Love Lounge” where we celebrate love.  Check back in June 2017 for that feature.

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Thank you Mrs. Blue for being a fighter, an inspiration to many and for allowing us to tell your story, honor and celebrate YOU!

Love the #BWSU Family

“Love Your Va-Jay-Jay And Breast” Day Recap – Online Gynecological and Breast Cancer Awareness

This past Monday, April 10, 2017 BlackWomenStandUp.com’s Online Gynecological and Breast Cancer Awareness Initiative, “Love  Your Va-Jay-Jay and Breast Day” was a success.  The Founders took to social media to spread their message using hashtags #CheckUpOnIt, #LoveYourVaJayJay and #LoveYourVaJayJayAndBreast to encourage women to be proactive with regards to their health in order to remain cancer free or for early detection and treatment.

Ways to #CheckUpOnIt :

  • Schedule that GYN appointment
  • Perform a self-breast exam
  • Talk with your family about your medical history as it relates to cancer
  • Get informed about statistics, tips, prevention an early detection strategies

It was great to see supporters sharing messages, celebrating being Survivors as well as celebrating Survivors in their lives.

KarenNewCelebrating my Sister, Karen Braxton a breast cancer Survivor!”  ~ T. Braxton

Denise“I am Standing Up to Bring Awareness to GYN/Breast Cancers, Please #CheckUpOnIt to Remain Cancer Free or for Early Detention and Life Saving Treatment. #BWSU ” ~ Ms. Denise Grundy

JeanettaAndMom💋💜💜 Lost my (Mommy) 4/12/13 to breast cancer…”I’m a survivor.. #stayingontop  ~ Jeanetta Johnson – New York Pictured left with her Mother R.I.P. and alone with her Survivor tiara:)

For the remainder of April since it is National Minority Health Month BlackWomenStandUp.com will continue to spread information with regards to cancer, accept pictures and messages of love to celebrate Survivors, and or honor the lost of a loved one to any of the gynecological and or breast cancers for our Survivors and Memorial Walls.

If you would like to submit please email: Contact@BlackWomenStandUp.com

To Your Health!

#BWSU Family

 

Celebrating Survivors #LoveYourVaJayJayDay Gynecological And Breast Cancer Awareness Initiative

Today through our online Gynecological and Breast Cancer Awareness Initiative “Love Your Va-Jay-Jay and Breast Day” we are celebrating Survivors of GYN and Breast Cancers. We Stand With and For Survivors everywhere and Honor Black Women and Women of Color on our Survivors Wall.

Meet Survivors Ester Davis and Karen Henry who we will be adding to our Wall for #LoveYourVaJayJayAndBreastDay

Ester Davis was diagnosed in 2010 and beat cancer a year later.  She attributes having her yearly mammogram and early detection as helping her win the fight against cancer.  That is why it is so important for you to #CheckUpOnIt

Thank you to Hope Gurley, Co-Worker and Friend for Honoring Ester!

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Meet Karen Henry – Karen is currently going through treatment and Standing Up to breast cancer, she is a Fighter and Survivor!  She is pictured below with her Son Zach, who honored his Mom when cut his hair to show his support for Her. 

Karen is being Honored by her long-time friend, Lora Jackson of New York City.

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Thank you from #BWSU

#LoveYourVaJayJayAndBreastDay