#WednesdayWords – The Importance of Loving Yourself

“Without love of self, it is impossible to truly love someone else.”  ~ Tiffany Braxton

You may think you are capable of being in a romantic relationship with someone else,  but until you learn to love and respect yourself, it is impossible to truly love someone else in a healthy way.  Love yourself, set values and standards for yourself and stand by them.  Part of loving begins with understanding YOU.  Before you can invest in someone else, invest in yourself; learn what makes you tick, decide what is import ant to you and what you need in order to be happy.

Know your self-worth, and never settle for less.

Peace and Love:)

#WednesdayWords…

Quote… “Life is a work of art. You have to keep mixing colors, creating new blends, and seeing things in fresh ways. You must be willing to get paint all over you. Life is about growth. Growth demands change. Change requires humility. Sometimes you need to bring change; sometimes you need to be changed.” ~ […]

#WednesdayWords by Navi Blue…Feature Poet

Lauryn Hill once said “I consider myself a crayon, I may not be your favorite color but one day you’re going to need to complete your picture.”

Is this quote relevant to you? Does it have a strong meaning to you? Has someone ever treated you like you weren’t worthy of proper love? Have you ever stuck with someone because of the love you hold for that person, even though they hurt you immensely? Do you deserve better?

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If you answered yes to any or all of these questions, then you can relate to this poem. The poem “Ugly” is for every woman young or old who has put herself in a relationship that wasn’t healthy for her self-esteem. She knew it wasn’t healthy but she allowed herself to stay anyway because Love GOT in the way. The ironic thing about this poem is that it doesn’t have a happy ending, the girl does not end up leaving the guy because she realizes she’s too good and she needs to value herself. Sorry, no fairy tale ending here, this particular girl has to learn and maybe one day she will. So here we go…

“UGLY”

I wake up in the morning to wash some of the ugly off my face
i look at myself thoroughly my coated brown complexion
Am I worthless
Could this be it?

He told me I’m ugly so I am
I am who he says I am

I lay in bed with him at night
Having wishful thoughts that when he wakes up
He will see some beauty within me
A look of disgust appears in the morning coming from his opinionated mirror

I jump to scratch some of the ugly off my face

He told me I’m ugly so I am
I am who he says I am

I walk on the street getting smiles, glances and whistles from other guys
I get a compliment here and there but I know its not true

He told me I’m ugly so I am
I am who he says I am

I do my hair in nice bouncy curls
Put a touch of make up on
A gorgeous dress
And my highest heels
But yet I still get an urge to scrub some of the ugly off my face

He told me I’m ugly so I am
I am who he says I am

Visit from mama brings me joy
When its time for us to part
She hugs me
Gives me a gentle kiss
And says “Baby you still looking beautiful”
I turn away quickly

He told me I’m ugly so I am
I am who he says I am

My beauty hides behind hateful words
Deceiving and deluding spoken statements
I fail to realize how genuinely
Beautiful I am

I walk in the bathroom
Apply red lipstick to my lips
And stare at my coated brown complexion
Am I worthless? could this be it?

He walks back and smiles and says
“Baby you try to be something your not”

I sit motionless rainfalls pour from my eyes

I take a rag and dance it roughly across my face to remove some ugly
He told me I’m ugly so I am
I am who he says I am
And that is ugly

~ Navi Blue

#WednesdayWords – Quote

“As Black Women we live our lives as if certain things are OK, when it’s NOT OK.” ~ Iyanla Vanzant

This statement rang true to me, because we see it play out in the lives of women we know or possibly in our own lives. We also saw this last night on the premiere of the new #BET original movie #BeingMaryJane starring Gabrielle Union. Mary Jane Paul, a successful, educated, single, Black woman who owned a beautiful home, had a fulfilling career and a not so perfect love life. She was the ONE in her family that everyone relied on…raise your hand if you can relate to that.

Photo from BET.com
Photo from BET.com

Basically, there are many women walking around as if everything is ok, all the while carrying the weight of ___________ on their shoulders (you fill in the blank). Then ask yourself, is this okay or Am I really okay?

Meditate on that.

Peace and Love,
BWSU Family

Ladies, remember to Guard Your Heart Like You Would Your Pocketbook.